optimizing Family Gatherings This Holiday Season

Hi friends,

The holidays are here, and you know what that means: family, food, and the chance to create some beautiful memories. But let’s be honest—family gatherings can also come with their fair share of challenges. If you’re a parent of a medically complex child or a kid with unique needs, the holidays can sometimes feel like a juggling act.

Every family has relatives who love to weigh in on your parenting or ask a million questions about your life. You might hear comments like, “Why do you do it that way?” or “Back in my day, we just let kids tough it out.” Add in some prying questions about your child’s health or your personal choices, and things can get overwhelming fast.

But here’s the good news: with a little preparation and the right mindset, you can make the most of these gatherings and enjoy the season.

First, let’s talk about perspective. When someone makes an offhand comment or gives unsolicited advice, remind yourself that their opinion doesn’t define you. Smile, nod, or politely let them know how you feel, but don’t let it ruin your day. You’re doing what’s best for your family, and that’s all that matters.

It’s also important to set boundaries around sensitive topics. Not every conversation belongs at the family table, especially when kids are around. If a touchy subject comes up, saying, “Let’s chat about this later” is fine. This keeps the focus on enjoying the moment and prevents unnecessary tension.

And speaking of kids, remember that they’re always watching and listening. Family gatherings are a great opportunity to model kindness and patience, even in tricky situations. By keeping things light and positive, you teach your kids how to handle challenges gracefully.

Another thing to keep in mind: you’re not obligated to share every detail about your child’s progress or challenges. If you’d rather focus on the joy of the season, that’s completely okay. A simple, “I’d prefer not to talk about that right now,” is all it takes to redirect the conversation.

And if attending every event feels overwhelming, permit yourself to say NO. Your child’s well-being comes first, and it’s okay to skip a gathering if it’s not the right fit for your family. Prioritizing your child’s needs—whether it’s avoiding sensory overload or staying healthy during flu season—is nothing to feel guilty about.

At the heart of it all, the holidays are about connection, love, and creating memories. Focus on the moments that bring you joy—whether it’s baking cookies with your kids, catching up with a supportive relative, or simply enjoying some quiet time together.

This season, let’s embrace the beauty of imperfection and make the most of the time we have with our loved ones. You’ve got this, and you’re doing an incredible job. Wishing you a holiday season filled with warmth, laughter, and all the pie you can eat!