fall - a season of fun and frenzy.

I absolutely love the fall season! It’s one of my favorites—everything cools down, the colors are stunning, and there’s nothing better than sipping on hot coffee, pulling on a cozy sweater, and embracing the festive vibe. I especially enjoy the extra family time, getting into fall attire, and jumping into all the activities that come with this season. But, as much as I love fall, it also brings its challenges, especially as a mom to a child who is medically complex and has sensory processing issues.

Let’s start with Halloween. It’s such a fun and spooky time, but for kids with sensory sensitivities, it can be overwhelming for several reasons. Flashing lights can be a major issue, especially for kids who have epilepsy, and the loud, scary sounds or people jumping out can be really startling. Then there’s the issue of darkness at events, which can be tricky for children with visual impairments—it’s not uncommon for them to miss a step or trip, which adds to the stress.

And let’s talk about the candy! Fall is packed with sweet treats everywhere you turn, but for families managing a child with dietary restrictions—whether due to diabetes, cancer recovery, or other medical needs—it can be tough to navigate. Even though I love the season, I often wish it were easier for families like mine to enjoy it without the extra worries.

Then there’s the never-ending stream of invitations to fall festivals, school events, and Halloween parties. I want my kids to experience the season, but it’s not always realistic when it conflicts with medical appointments or therapies. Plus, balancing the needs of a child with sensory issues and another who doesn’t can be a challenge. You want everyone to enjoy themselves without one child feeling left out.

What I’ve learned over the years is that balance is key. I’ve had to get comfortable with picking and choosing the events we can attend and letting go of the guilt when we have to say no. I’ve also realized the importance of leaning on my social support system—friends or family who can take my other child to an event when it’s not suitable for their sibling. Tag-teaming is a lifesaver during this busy, chaotic time of year.

So, my advice? Don’t be afraid to ask for help, prioritize what works best for your family, and know it’s okay to say no to an event. Fall is a beautiful season, but for families with special needs, it’s important to create a balance that works for everyone.